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Training Empathy

Spend time with people who are different than you. Your team has many opportunities to do this each day. Encourage them to strike up a conversation with the barista at their coffee shop, or simply engage with colleagues in other departments on a regular basis.

Training Positivity

Train yourself and your support team to replace negative words with positive ones.

Carolyn Kopprasch, Chief Happiness Officer at Buffer, gives some great examples in her post about how she stopped using “actually” and “but” in her customer service emails. Note how different the tone feels in these two sentences:

Sentence 1: I really appreciate you writing in, but unfortunately we don’t have this feature available.

Sentence 2: I really appreciate you writing in! Unfortunately, we don’t have this feature available.

These tiny changes can lead to dramatic differences in the customer service experience.

Training Patience

Jane Bolton at Psychology Today has four great tips for training patience in your customer service staff:

1. Understand the addictive nature of anger, irritation, and outrage. The more you feel these emotions, the more like you are to keep feeling them. Understanding that makes it clear why it’s so important to be more patient.

2. Upgrade your attitude towards discomfort and pain. In uncomfortable situations with customers where you feel your patience wearing thin, remind yourself that “this is merely uncomfortable, not intolerable.”

3. Pay attention to when the irritation/pain starts. Find the cues that cause you to lose your cool. That way, you can correct course before it’s too late.

4. Control your self-talk. The things we say to ourselves have an uncanny ability of coming true, whether they’re positive or negative. So when you say “this customer is really starting to piss me off,” instead of, for example, “this is a tough situation, but I’m going to stay calm and do what it takes to solve the problem,” it can have a big impact on what the reality becomes.



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